Overcome your shyness-Confidence

Show it and have it" simple things to do that create the illusion in women minds that you are a confident man.

Confidence is always picked up on women's radar. They can tell, within five minutes of talking to you, whether you are a confident person or not.

This is not to be confused with arrogance: you don't want to talk to her like she is below your standards.

The difference is that you can talk to her without getting nervous, being able to listen when she is talking and treating her as if you are not after her.

The problem with confidence is that it is very hard to fake it for long periods of time. But there are certain things to do and not to do that will read "definetely confident on her radar screen" :

  1. look at her straight in the eye
  2. smile ( not a sly grin like "let's have sex")
  3. straight posture
  4. no nervous ticks (like jiggling coins in your pocket or scratching your ear)
  5. don't be intimidated or leave if another guy tries to talk to her while you two are talking.
  6. don't jump in to "dating" related topics, as if you were trying to get her number too fast
  7. keep your topics uplifting, like you are some sort of super guy at work, at exercise, with people or social life
  8. get just as excited, serious, sad as she is: a fake laugh at her joke will do more damage than good.
  9. if she has to go somewhere in the middle of your conversation, let her. If she insists she will be right back then give her five minutes. Any longer than that move on to someone else (unless you know you two were getting along great. If she gives you one of those "I'm going to the bathroom, I'll be right", move on or wait for her from a different location where you can see her but she can't immediately see you. If she does come back and is looking for you, you can then step forward and pick up where you left off. If she doesn't come back, at least you wont be standing there like her puppet.
  10. don't say your sorry or ask for permission for asking personal questions.

The topic of confidence could go on forever, but what I usually do is pretend I already have a girlfriend that looks great and that is lots of fun. If you can simulate this mental state, it will come through and convey that idea to her. It will spell out " I'm used to girl of your caliber and I'm yet to be impressed by you".

At this point, it will be up to her to have to work hard and convince you to talk and discover her, not the other way around.

 

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